Written by Joanne Harper of Proverbs Pursuit
I will ponder the way that is blameless. Oh when will you come to me? I will walk with integrity of heart within my house; I will not set before my eyes anything that is worthless. I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not cling to me. A perverse heart shall be far from me; I will know nothing of evil.- Psalm 101: 2-4
During my postpartum days, after the haze of physical and mental exhaustion was beginning to lift, I found myself seeking advice and encouragement from many places. My days were often spent texting older moms about baby sleep, baby poop, and wondering if they ever felt they had things under control. I also started searching Instagram for mom accounts for me to scroll through as I nursed my son for what seemed like the 20th time that day.
There are many mom accounts out there. Some are funny. Some are encouraging. But, to be honest, most are not worth consuming!
Peruse mom accounts on Instagram and you’ll see quotes like:
Though some of these are funny (and many of these memes are quite funny) there are few things worse for an exhausted, anxious, down-trodden, momma-mind than quotes that feed you a sense of jadedness. I would read posts similar to these and be reminded of how tired I was from the daily routine of caring for a needy baby while receiving little to no break.
These types of accounts won’t motivate you to stay the course or remind you that the daily, mundane tasks are all being done to the glory of God. Though these tasks seem insignificant now, you are performing the duty God has called for you. Why not do it gladly?
Instead of reading these negative momma blogs, what else can you do to encourage your weary soul? Here are some things I’ve found helpful.
1. Remain in Scripture: Fight the urge to get up and just “get on” with your day. Take time to pause and read scripture. If you truly don’t have time to do this in the morning, make time in the evening when your kiddos are in bed or during nap time (if your kiddos are still in that stage). Make time whenever you can! It is true rest for the soul.
2. Pray: With prayer you don’t have to stop and open up the bible. You can pray while changing your baby’s diaper. Pray when he’s gotten fussy for the 5th time of the day. Pray when he’s taken, yet another, short nap.
3. Memorize scripture: I struggle with this. We must store up scripture in our hearts in order to remind ourselves of the truth when our emotions are telling us lies. You can write them down on note cards or purchase these cute scripture memory journals which are compact and portable.
4. Speak to other mommas: Now I don’t mean any momma. You may have a momma friend who is a walking example of those negative blog posts we’re trying to avoid. It’s important to speak with other moms who will acknowledge what you are experiencing, but remind you of the gift you have and point you to the truth. We are to share each other's burdens. I’m blessed to have many momma friends, but doubly blessed to have a friend with a 10 year old daughter and a son who just happens to be two weeks older than EJ. I’ve gone to her plenty of times complaining about how the sleepless nights will never end. She’s experiencing everything with me since our boys are so close in age, but at the same time she’s on the other side of this experience with her 10 year old daughter. I can’t tell you how many times she’s told me, “This too shall pass” while acknowledging how it just doesn’t feel like it will pass! She just gets it!
Sisters, we must be mindful of what we set before our eyes and choose to meditate on. Scripture tell us, “...whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” - Philippians 4:8
Instead of indulging in these mom blogs/accounts let's resolve to encourage ourselves, and one another, with the Lord's promises. Those promises will offer more strength for each day than worldly complaints.