My daughter and I have a very close relationship, and she is very comfortable talking to me about things that go on in her life. We talk about her experiences as a teenager and all of the crazy things the kids are involved in. The latest phenomenon the kids are involved in is vaping. Yuck. Check out our podcast episode to hear all the details and all the ingredients that are in vaping. But, I wanted to give you a couple of pointers to remember when dealing with peer pressure and talking to your children. 1.) Be OPEN. I rarely felt comfortable talking to my parents about anything. I thought they were from a different era and wouldn’t understand. I think if I would have taken the time to talk to them I may have saved myself some pain. But I didn’t. Even when some of the topics are scary or even cringe worthy, they still need to be discussed! Don’t shy away from them. Remember, a lot of the things in this fallen world your children are going to learn from someone. That could be their friends or even a non-believer. Will their advice and feedback be as Christ centered as yours? Will they have their best intention for your child? Probably not as much as a parent. Be the first line of defense and talk to your kids. 2.) Be mindful of your responses to them. Try not to show your disappointment, don’t yell and scream at them when they open up. You don’t want them to shut down. On the flip side of that you must set clear expectations for your children. There really shouldn’t be any gray area in what your expectations are. You are Christians; your household will be held to The standards of the Bible. Make that clear to your children. Hopefully, they are true believers and want to live a life pleasing to Christ. 3.) Lastly, remember that your children are The Lord's. Remember Hannah in the Bible? “O LORD of hosts, if You will indeed look on the affliction of Your maidservant and remember me, and not forget Your maidservant, but will give Your maidservant a son, then I will give him to the LORD all the days of his life. —1 Samuel 1:11 She prayed for a child and The Lord blessed her with a child. She knew that her child belonged to The Lord. Our children are not ours to keep. We can raise them; we can teach them to follow Christ and pray that they will always follow Him. In Proverbs 22:6, Solomon writes: “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Our children belong to The Lord. Sometimes our children grow up and leave the faith. We know what 1st John 2:19 says - that if someone leaves the faith they were never of the faith. "They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would have continued with us. But they went out, that it might become plain that they all are not of us." We raise and develop them for His Glory. All Christian parents should keep that in mind. God is sovereign, and He is in control. Place your hope in Him. Let's find comfort in that.