I thank God for my husband. I have a sincere genuine heart of gratefulness toward him.
About 6 years ago that wasn’t the case. I resented my husband, his actions, and his words. I resented many of the predicaments he put us in. My husband grew up in the church but wasn’t saved. He grew up never being held accountable for his actions. I married him as a sinner myself, and I will have you know that I am still a sinner until Christs return. However, now I am a sinner who has been saved by grace and bought with the blood of Jesus.
I came from a completely different household than my husband. I wasn’t given much room to express my artistic abilities. My husband had freedom; I didn’t. We were both unprepared for marriage. So, when we decided to get married it was, at best, an adjustment.
I didn’t learn to biblically love my husband until about five years ago. Life situations forced us to reevaluate what was actually happening in our lives. I thought I loved my husband when we were first married but looking back, I know that it was an unhealthy kind of love. I made excuses for missteps and comforted him in his sin. I was a horrible wife. I THOUGHT I was good. I was also a nagger. Oh, did I nag.
Proverbs 25:24 “It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.”
What do you mean I can’t nag? I am just telling him what’s right! Well, at least that was my thought process. I was used to being the spiritual leader in the home, or just a leader period. I handled everything. I had never seen a woman submit to a man and allow a man to lead the house so I wasn’t sure how that worked or that I wasn’t even interested in doing it. I was more assertive and aggressive. So, when I knew something needed to be done I made sure it was done without consulting my husband. My husband is the more relaxed one; it takes a lot to get him in the stage of panic.
It was an unhealthy disaster. I didn’t start becoming a godly wife until five years ago.
It was then that I started to pray for my husband. I wish I could remember what those prayers sounded like back when I was a baby in Christ. I’m sure they were words I mumbled and probably some pleas. I was brokenhearted five years ago and I wasn’t sure if God was hearing me. But upon some Bible reading I learned that He was hearing me.
Psalm 34:18 “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
He still wasn’t genuinely saved but he believed he was. I was saved and my husband being a false convert struggled with that a bit. He couldn’t understand what was happening to me. He knew I was different, my speech, my interests, me as a woman. But he just didn’t understand. Yet, I still thanked God for placing him in my life. I was hoping that my transformation would help plant a seed in my husband’s heart and lead him to Christ.
1st Peter 3:1 “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives...”
When the Lord saved my husband I was able to see the transformation before my very eyes. Seeing him transform into a new creation was a beautiful thing to see. It is a reminder of God’s grace on us sinners.
I thank God for my husband. He places God first and me second. When you interact with him you know it. Genesis 2:24 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Until my husband loved me the way Christ loved the church, I realized how lost we were. Now, to see my husband express his love for me I am able to enjoy it because I know this comes from Christ.
Ephesians 5:25-33 “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church...”
I appreciate his patience. “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19)
He reminds me of how often he thanks the Lord for our marriage, and me being his partner. Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
I thank God for my husband because he is the leader of our home. There are some things that I am in charge of but my husband leads us. We have biblical roles created for us that were designed by God. My husband has his roles, and he will be held accountable for it. I have my roles that I will be held accountable for. Husbands are called to be leaders, and to have wholesome control over their families and their lives. My husband is not some bully or dictator. That’s not what being a leader means. Scripture does not endorse that my husband is “better than me”. Instead, Scripture confirms that my husband is the leader and he does come first (even before the children). I know we won’t have marriage in heaven. We won’t need it. I know while we have this time together, I want to continue to thank God for my husband.
Three things will last forever - faith, hope, and love - and the greatest of these is love. ( 1 Corinthians 13:13 ) The greatest of these may be love, but don't underestimate the power of hope. When we are in our deepest depths of despair, it is hope that keeps us going when it's hard to get out of bed. Hope is what kept me praying for my husband's salvation. And, by the grace of God, this prayer was answered. Have you lost sight of our hope? Our hope is everlasting. Our hope is full of grace. Our hope is in Christ Jesus.