“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
Christian women all over the world like to describe themselves as Proverbs 31 women.
Proverbs 31:10 -30
An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
When I first read this passage I remember thinking that is the kind of woman, and wife I want to be. How could I not? I misunderstood pieces of that verse and it showed in various parts of my life.
I spent a lot of time tending to physical matters and hardly any time on matters of the heart. I was consumed with my clothes, my hair, making sure my body was in shape and was attractive to my husband. While I feel like these are all important qualities to tend to, we are to complement our husbands. We want to make sure we look our best, and that we are presentable. But, sometimes in focusing on the outer appearance we neglect to care and tend to our wicked and deceitful hearts (Jeremiah 17:9) Why would we not want to spend more time caring for our hearts than our bodies? These bodies are fading away each and every day, and will continue to do so as we live in a fallen world. But our souls will live on and spend eternity in glory or in hell. It is important to tend to the matters of the heart.
So, how do we do that? How can we make sure we keep the focus on both our outward and inward appearances with more of an importance on our hearts?
We need to die to self daily. Galatians 2:20 “I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” As believers we have the privilege of dwelling in Christ. When we remember this truth we remember that we are living for a holy God. When we are constantly dying to ourselves, and feeding ourselves with God's word, we are more concerned about the important things that bring him glory. We will not be consumed with vain thoughts. Remember to die to yourself daily.
We live in a world where there is emphasis on physical beauty. I mean look around. We see celebrities and athletes who are seemingly more attractive than us. It is in front of our face daily. Society shows us our definition of beauty and then we become focused on that definition of beauty. You know the thing about society’s definition of beauty? It always changes. One day this look is in, and the next something else. One day thick and bushy eyebrows are in, and the following year thin, drawn in ones are in style. You catch my drift. Pursuing what the world thinks is beautiful will constantly be an unattainable goal. What the world thinks is beautiful, and what God thinks is beautiful are two different things. Let’s stop putting all of our focus on the beauty that is God-given and focus on our hearts. As Christian women let’s always remember that. Let our actions, speech and hearts give God glory. When our bodies fade and we are on the other side of eternity what will our hearts say about us?